Insecurity

Why do some girls have self-confidence crisis? Why do they often feel insecure?

To be pretty and attractive are what every girl wants. Every time we close our door house to go out, it’s no secret that we want all of the eyes on us. But when we see some other girls that we think are more pretty, more gorgeous, or skinnier than us, we immediately feel less confidence, aren’t we?

Every girl needs to be acknowledged. It has to be something from every girl, which stands out for them to be noticed and different from other girls, whether it is her beauty, body, knowledge, or personality. What becomes the problem here is when they compare their selves with other girls. Oh my God, she’s so pretty and sexy! She is what everyone’s definition of beauty! How I wish I could be just like her, I would be very lucky.

Some girls are insecure with their body. Some of them think they are too fat, others think they are way too skinny. The ones who think they are too fat are starting a diet, but often they end up in torturing their selves and still don’t get the body they wanted. Other than doing a diet, sometimes they use some kind of drugs or vitamins to help them lose some weight, these use of medication which is not under the experts prescriptions could led to a misuse that may have a negative impact to our body. Although most of the medications are succeed in helping to lose some weights, still it is better to stay healthy in natural ways. The insecurities about weight also could lead us to eating disorder, of course all of us are familiar with this term. Eating disorder, anorexia or bulimia, obviously give a negative impact to our body and for having it really is not cool J.

There are many types of body shape and all of them beautiful. Although you are big or fat, it doesn’t really matter when you feel good with your self and love them. To feel good with you being fat is not an excuse to not work out or eat unhealthy foods, still you have to keep your body healthy. How can you feel good with your body when you know it is unhealthy? How can you say that you love your body when you’re not taking care of it? So being healthy and keep your body in good shape is the first step to feel good with yourself. When you already feel good with yourself your self-confidence will come along the way.

Do you find a knowledgeable woman attractive? For me, to widen our knowledge surely can improve our self-confidence. What I meant by knowledge is not only academic-related knowledge that you usually got from school, but also any other thing you have interest on. It could be music, movies, books, foods, politics, economics, and many other things you enjoyed. Those interests you had, you can share with other people who have common interest, then you will be acknowledged by your knowledge about something. Be curious and open-minded, be a woman whose people comfortable to talk to. If you have issues with your body or appearance and haven’t overcome with it, you can think this way, at least I’m a smart-ass girl, or at least I’m a master in…that way, can help we can get our self-confidence.

I believe that each girl has their own beauty, and in fact, they are! Although not many of us are the whole package girls, but still, we are gorgeous in our own way. It may sounds cliché but it’s the truth, if everyone has same typical beauty, will it still make her looked beauty? Beauty itself is come from the uniqueness, where it is rare and attractive, because the beauty from one person is different from other person. When you want someone’s beauty, you will never be as beautiful as they are, because you weren’t born to have what they have, you were born to have what you got and you have to find ways to make it beautiful. So stop compare yourself with other girls!